Alexander and Lily

Alexander and Lily

Monday, February 13, 2012

The Fight with Myself

"She never slows down. She doesn't know why, but she knows that when she's all alone it feels like it's all coming down...she fears if she cries that first tear, the tears will not stop raining down. So stand in the rain, stand your ground. Stand up when it's all crashing down. You stand through the pain, you won't drown...She won't make a sound alone in this fight with herself..."

These lyrics pretty much describe how I'm feeling these days. I'm constantly fighting myself about what is best for my children. The life of a mother, right? I can NOT decide what to do about their language learning for next year. I think we have pretty much decided to start both kids in auditory verbal therapy again, regardless of what we decide about school placement for next year. So the question still remains: should we mainstream Lily next year or do another year at OVV? I go back and forth almost daily. I was leaning toward another year at OVV and then I talked to the kids tonight and Lily was crying and saying she wanted to go home and see Mommy. :( To help save on gas, most weeks the kids spend at least one night at my uncle's in Cinci. Some weeks (like this one) they stay 2 nights. It kills me! I KNOW, without a doubt, that OVV is the best school for keeping Lily on track with auditory and language development. However, would AVT and mainstream be enough? Maybe? So the fight with myself continues....

3 comments:

  1. I love that song!

    I know it has to a tough decision to make and it is weighing heavily on your mind. In the end, you need to do what is best for your family, whatever that may be. No matter what, you are a great mom and will do everything in your power to ensure they both have the resources they need to succeed. There is no right or wrong way to go about it.

    p.s. - love the pics!

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  2. Oh I feel for you. If it helps at all, here in Australia we don't really have access to specialist auditory/oral schools and the kids still do well. Matilda has only ever had 1 hour per week of AVT and has just started kindy this year (mainstream). You will do an amazing job, and you will make the right decision.

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  3. I think that mainstream is important before kindergarten. We don't have an oral deaf school option, so mainstream is it, but Lucas thrives there, and he's learning so much from his hearing peers. Every child is different though, and I don't envy your decision! Good luck!

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